What Happened When I Ignored My Instincts

You’d be amazed at how often your instincts will try to guide you. It’s not until later, usually when it’s too late, that you realise you SHOULD have stopped and listened.

Top 5 Examples of when you SHOULD have listened to your instincts.

  1. When I engaged with a client, and I KNEW they were going to be a complete nightmare
  2. When I employed someone I knew was not 100% right
  3. I was too nice to speak up about a problem, to avoid conflict but ended up with a much bigger problem
  4. I was in a meeting with stakeholders and I had a solution to a problem, but I didn’t speak up and I missed out on a great opportunity
  5. I missed out on buying a property or business

Let’s face it, this list could go on and on but that’s exactly why I am here, to stop our lovely friend ‘hindsight’ from turning up on our doorstep when it’s too late.

Learning to listen and trust your instincts is a learned skill!
Once you tap into it, you’ll discover how well it serves you and possibly the limiting assumptions you have had about yourself, for some time. It will highlight how you, get in the way, of having what you want. So, you can continue to do what you do automatically, or you can start to tune into your instincts, which means challenging your thinking, feelings and behaviour.

Here is the thing………when you don’t listen to your instinct and it’s too late, you are in a much harder situation, to get out of.                                                                                                          I’ve put together this blog to help you stay on track. To bring your awareness to your instincts regularly.

How can we make sure we always listen to our instincts?
I’ve become obsessed with the idea of creating a life that allows not only myself, but others to truly get the best out of their work and life. To become a master at this requires a neutral space that is threat free and stakeholder free.

Top 3 Reasons CEO’s don’t always listen to their instincts.

  1. They may have to make decisions that are unpopular, that will impact on people they like.
  2. They don’t get the chance to explore their decisions in a stakeholder free environment.
  3. They are technically brilliant, focus on the data and dismiss their feelings in order to get a result.

So why do I care about YOUR instincts?

Well……I learnt the hard way and I don’t want you to have to go through the same lessons.
 I built a multi-million dollar national award winning business in the advertising industry. With great success comes great pressure. This pressure had A LOT to do with the fact that I failed to listen to my instincts and trust myself. I feared conflict, felt stressed and was focused on everybody else’s needs apart from my own. Deep down I knew that there were issues I needed to face but I just didn’t know where to start.

It’s a strange spiral of events that starts to unravel, when you ignore your instincts and can lead you into situations you KNEW, never had to be an issue.

5 Negative ways people deal with stressful situations to avoid or deny one’s feelings and current reality.

  1. Over work
  2. Over eat
  3. Over spend
  4. Alcohol, drugs or gambling
  5. Excessive exercise and other addictive behaviours

This is another one of those lists that could go on and on but once again it doesn’t have to. After years of consideration and educating myself, I am able to respect, honour and implement that ‘gut feeling’, which I am happy to say has paid off well. Now it’s time for me to share this learning with you and your colleagues.

Understanding the way YOU work is the first step forward. 
We each have a unique outlook that interprets situations according to our own experiences. A lot of this happens unconsciously when our brains flicked into auto-mode. Right now, you don’t know what you don’t know, so it’s important to get a new perspective of what’s really going on, so you can choose a more beneficial way forward to thrive not just survive.

What’s happening to your brain when you make bad decisions and ignore your instincts?
Neuroscience has informed us that our brain’s primary function, is to minimise threat and maximise reward. When we are triggered by a perceived threat our brain releases cortisol and adrenalin sending us a signal to get out of there. We then generally respond in a number of different ways. This may include, becoming hugely critical of others and everything, becoming perfectionist and controlling or being too nice. Sound familiar? It’s important to gain awareness of when our brain is kicking into auto mode and what we are perceiving as a threat. Naming something that has affected us adversely, is part of freeing ourselves from its continued influence.

I love helping leaders get out of their own way, getting serious about things and take the necessary steps to have what they want professionally and personally.

Building capability as a leader is an ever evolving process. Ongoing coaching is required to become the best you can be no matter what level you are at. Working on your skills, refining them, building your confidence and growing your capacity to communicate, is SO important, if you want to achieve your greatest goals. The possibilities are endless. I’m here to allow you to see that it doesn’t have to be hard and I believe, me I should know……..you have to go with your gut!

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